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>joseph, > >well i took your advice and went out on a limb and asked them about >finding a church or somem form of youth group that i can join and >see if i can find my way through things with the use of this. well >you can only guess the outcome, they went absaloutly crazy saying >that i didnt need any of that wholy crap in my life and that it >would be a waste of time. so now i am stuck and have run out of >ideas as how to try and helpp myself get through this rough patch >that i am in at the moment. i just want to thank you for all your >help that you have given me over the time that we have been writing >to each other. you have given me so much hope to keep going and to >stay strong > >thanks, > >Carrie xx >
Hello Carrie, Thank you for your email. I`m sorry to hear of their response. But that is just like life. You step out in faith and take calculated risks and hope for the best. Can you blame your parents. Not really. They are products of their environment, and we must give people space to grow. That is where they are right now in their opinion of religion. Now ask them what they think you should do. In life, never go to someone with a problem unless you have taken some time to figure out an answer. Like-wise with your parents, tell them, ``OK, you don`t want me to go to a church. Where do you want me to go.`` In doing so, you simply hit the ball back in their court, staying friendly but very persistant. Persistant because you know they would never want you to live with emotional pain. Certainly not emotional pain, they say it is far worse than physical pain. If you were physically injured they`d have you in the hospital in an hour. This is something now worse than physical pain and they must act if they are any kind of responsible parents which I believe they are. You are in good hands Carrie, keep pressing for answers until they come. I`ll be here for you. Do keep me posted. Take care, Joseph PS. I love your email address, but you are not really a freak in a cage, but a graceful, peaceful swan in the making. Take care. -J
>Dear Joseph, > >thanks for all your support, it really is a big help to me. i shall >take your advice and try and talk to my parents about finding a >church and getting some help. my friend suggested that i try >anti-depressents but i0 have herd some rather unfavouring talk about >the side afect of this drug. do you no anything about them. if so >please share that information with me. i was truley topuched by you >P.S i brought a tear actually many tears to my eyes. i was truley >touched it was such a nice thing to say and you have not known me >verry long. i dont really no who you are or much about you as our >conversations usuelly revolve around me but whoever you are Joseph >you are an amazing person and you have truely ernt a place in my >heart and my memory thankyou so much for your support and >information that you have given me. > >Take care, > >Carrie xx
Hello Carrie, Thank you for your email. I have a folder for replies such as yours called Čncouragement`. I go to those letters now and again. Thank you. As for medication, many people do not like the side effects from them. Medication is used for people who are so out of it that they need something to calm them down while they are in therapy. It is best not to go on them, but if you go on them it should be looked upon as only a temporary aid until your thoughts and beliefs are stabilized. Personally, I regret the day I ever started on them 14 years ago, but you trust the doctors when they advise you. They didn`t tell me I had anxiety. If they had I would have worked on correcting it. Instead, they said I had a `chemical imbalance`, (which they couldn`t even prove). (Why is it that many people who get treated for a so called chemical imbalance don`t become happy once the brain finally gets the `right chemicals`. Now you`ve got me on a rant, so I better stop .) It is always best to get a second or third opinion when dealing with emotional illnesses. Fortunately now there is way more knowledge out there than when I was on the road to wholeness. I hope this helps. Keep me posted. Take care, Joseph
dear Joseph, > >thankyou for your advice, i took it and read your website it was a >real eye-opener for me thankyou. people like you are a gift, a pure >gift that have every right to have a place in this world. some of >the things that you talk about fell so real and alive to me, like im >not the only one around with these thought asnd fears that io am not >good enough. i am quite a shy oerson but i am also a verry high >achiver, everything always, always has to be perfect but i always >feel that no matter how perfect or how hard i try on somethjing it >will never be good enough there is always somrething that could be >better or that needs fixing and it is great to no that i am not the >only one with these thought and feelings. > >thankyou for setting up that website, you have no idea how many >poeople you are helping, > >you are a true jem, > >thankyou > >Carrie xx >
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